Meredith Graves of Perfect Pussy on being a woman.
Seriously, if you read ONE thing today it should be Meredith’s speech on authenticity and the double standards in music (and life).(via heyveronica)
My Least Favorite Trope (and this post will include spoilers for The Lego Movie, Guardians of the Galaxy, The Matrix, Western Civilization, and—cod help me—Bulletproof Monk*.) is the thing where there’s an awesome, smart, wonderful, powerful female character who by all rights ought to be the Chosen One and the hero of the movie, who is tasked with taking care of some generally ineffectual male character who is, for reasons of wish fulfillment, actually the person the film focuses on. She mentors him, she teaches him, and she inevitably becomes his girlfriend… and he gets the job she wanted: he gets to be the Chosen One even though she’s obviously far more qualified. And all he has to do to get it and deserve it is Man Up and Take Responsibility.
And that’s it. Every god-damned time. The mere fact of naming the films above and naming the trope gives away the entire plot and character arc of every single movie."
Anonymous said: Your parents are absolutely right about polyamory and you should stay away from it before you get hurt. It's a great theory but it NEVER works out that way in real life. You will always go into it with good intentions and get used and hurt. Whatever ground rules you think you'll have will be ignored by these poly sleaze bags. Stay away for your own sake
Honestly, I think what’s most important are the people. You have to have people you trust and know won’t abuse your trust. I believe most polyamorous partners can have a successful relationship if they all are open about what they are doing. So while I see your point of view, I think we should agree to disagree. Thank you for your opinion though!
What the dear anon fails to understand is this:
How often are good intentions misconstrued and ground rules broken in MONOGAMOUS relationships? Judging by the 50% divorce rate, which doesn’t even count people who remain married yet miserable, or legally married but physically separated…. Yeah.
Opening yourself up to ANY relationship, let alone more than one, is inviting a risk because the sad truth of any relationship is that they all involve people, and people often suck. People make mistakes and bad decisions and let irrational fears or temptation of instant gratification get the better of them. Poly people cheat just like mono people cheat. Poly people lie just like mono people lie.
You’re very right in that the right people can make all the difference in that, of course~ Just understand that no one is perfect, and even though the right people will minimize the chances of drama, you’re still likely to have bumps occasionally. But as long as you all understand that, and don’t expect each other to be perfect, and are willing to communicate “hey this is why that hurt me” “this is why I did what I did” “this is how we can make that better in the future” and so-forth, and forgive each other and actually commit to the discussed changes— to let your relationship grow and evolve and change as you do— then I’m sure you’ll be in for a wonderful ride~ :3
^^^ THIS. ^^^
Anyone who claims to know that any sort of relationship NEVER works will pretty much ALWAYS be ill-informed and incorrect.